Marriage ? ? ?

Just to give a thought... though it is not my age to think about marriage as I am a very young boy... but I read somewhere:

Love is a madness that ends with marriage or love is a madness that only begins after marriage...

This confusion about marriage is something that can be seen in today's world... I personally have seen problems in each varied kinds of marriage.. marriage of duffers, marriage of doctors.. marriage of one duffer and other smart.. marriage of all kinds.. one young, the other old.. etc.. etc.. All of them have some or the other problem…

I read somewhere, which seems so true (though sad in a way)…

Genuine love between persons is probably more rare than one thinks… although most people believe that they have some share in it, and perhaps they do attain it for brief moments. …

Poet Coventry Patmore puts it in a very true way:

Love wakes men, once a lifetime each;
They lift their heavy lids and look;
And, lo, what one sweet page can teach
They read with joy, then shut the book:
And some give thanks, and some blaspheme,
And most forget; but, either way,
That and the child’s unheeded dream
Is all the light of all their day.

Cyril Conolly says:

First love is the one most worth having, yet the best marriage is often the second... for we should marry only when the desire for freedom is spent...

He also says:

Every love affair must reach a point where it will attain marriage, and be changed, or decline, or wither...

He advises that marriage is an experience everyone should go through and then live his own life…

One thing which I read and that actually explains the reason behind two people marrying:

The dread of loneliness being keener than the fear of bondage, we get married...

We are scared to live alone, and the fear of bondage that is inevitable after marriage also scares us, but the former is something that actually sucks more.. So, people go the latter that sucks less and if you are fortunate enough, it will turn out to be good.. or great.. depends on your luck…..


Before I finish, I read one more thing that touched my heart:

Better to write for yourself and have no public, than to write for the public and have no self.

PS: Love (n): A temporary insanity curable by marriage…